Mainstream society portrays a tendency of masochism very well, and before I define this further I’ll try and see what it, masochism, means. If you do a search for masochistic, you might find this page that will lead you to this page and if you look at the key points from “Self-defeating personality disorder” then it seems like we see that appearing in every facet of our society, yet we try to cover it up with our material achievements. “A pervasive pattern of self-defeating behaviour” is indicative of how we make movies isn’t it? Most movies portray characters that are already in a defeatist state – the focus of which is then to see these characters go from this defeatist state to something better. We love movies about demons, vampires and evil things because we like the evil, because we seem to want to find a justification for the evil. Lately vampire movies feature a “good vampire” or a “good bad guy”. Why don’t we ever see movies that stay with the good and end with the good. Is that even possible?
The defeatist and masochistic nature reveals itself far more in how we live our lives. People claiming to be the “meanest bitch” or “not caring who they offend” are all examples of masochism in my mind. You are hurting yourself because you want to portray a particular image to the world. You know the “I-don’t-give-a-shit” attitude, which is really screaming “I want lots of love and attention”, especially when you don’t get the love. Having a don’t care attitude reminds of a documentary I once watched about lions and buffaloes, where the lions were hunting the buffaloes as young lions and how eventually the hunting took its toll on them physically as they grew older because of the injuries they picked up while hunting. The injuries did not affect them as much when they were young but eventually as they grew older became more apparent. The same analogy can be drawn for people who have an attitude of “don’t-care” when they are younger, because eventually your soul gets weary of being like that.
We are so unlike nature because we always tend to seek the humanistic element in nature, the thing that suits us. Instead nature just is, it asks no questions or gives no answers, it just is. Why are we not like that? Death is such an equaliser yet we discriminate, we try to make ourselves better than others. There is a very fine line between who you are now and how you are living your life now, and how it all could change in an instant. An instant which would make you no better than anyone else.
Saying you are a bitch is a sign of a person with a small and pitiful ego deeming it necessary to make themselves appear meaner to make up for what they lack on a personal level. You will generally find these people to be the same proponents of drinking every weekend (all in the name of having a good time). They generally associate themselves with the typical crowd – ones who deem their material wealth (measured in both monetary and achievements) to be the epitome of achievements in life. They also tend to be the ‘neat and clean’ crowd, yet you have to wonder what the ‘neat and clean’ appearance must cost them, both personally and otherwise. I am pretty sure many individuals sell a piece of their soul to achieve this. The ‘neat and clean’ lifestyle often reminds of how we always try and disassociate ourselves from the poor and the sick.
What am I trying to say here? Life is not a predictable thing, you cannot always live it the way you imagine it, perfectly in your mind. Therefore you must be accepting of people, and be open to what they offer, rather than be a “bitch”. I have so many more thoughts around this though.